I found Playing For Change and linked it to my blog in 2014. I couldn't figure out how to write on the page; it just didn't let me, so it sat as a draft for the next 6 years. You can tell that it's not done today since all of the people are outside, surrounded by others an sitting really close to each other. Remember hugging ?
I looked at it again today and thought about how amazing it was that technology existed 6 years ago could let people who had never met and were all around the world sing together. It still completely confounds me, even though I know today that it is still really hard to do. Well, at least that's what I've heard.
I still can't figure out how to write on the page, so I just published it and am offering this as a sort of postscript. (Do only people who are old know what a "postscript" is? For that matter, do only old people know what a semicolon is?) Leaning on others seems to be a lesson we really need in today's world, as much, if not more, than we needed it 6 years ago. So I offer it as an old/new lesson and a bit of comfort in this world filled with the anguish of another Black man's death at the hands of a cop, the indifference of government leaders in multiple countries, and the random acts of kindness in a troubled world. Lean on me, and please, let me lean on you.
Sunday, May 31, 2020
Zuza, 2013
I found this on my blog list as a draft. I don't know why I never published it; I suppose that I thought that there was something unfinished about it. I can't imagine what that was, but I was still seeing myself in the not always complimentary light of working at Briar Patch, so perhaps that was it.
It was a little more than seven years ago. Seven years! Unbelievable that it could be that long ago. This is a picture from about that same time, sleek coat, two eyes--doesn't feel like I'm asking too much, really. Zuza had suddenly produced a large mass-like swelling on her belly which scared the crap out of me. She seemed unconcerned, so it might not have hurt at all, but with her, you never know, she really didn't complain much about anything when she was a bit more mobile and closer to the Spring Chicken time of her life. She still doesn't complain much, but she has fewer ways to do things by herself now, so is required to ask for more help.
So here is my Spring, 2013 entry. It was entitled, "Zuza, Today"
Zuza, brave little soldier that she is, is doing fine. The unknown mass turned out to be an inguinal hernia which was easily repaired by our extremely talented surgeon. Our other two doctors were there for consultation and dental cleaning--no kidding, they stitched her up so fast that they had time to clean her teeth. Carolyn and I left the building while the surgery was happening. On one hand, I do believe that there is some degree of consciousness that remains when they are sedated. On the other hand, as she slipped under sedation and began looking not really very alive...I started to cry and figured if she could tune into me under sedation I better not be looking at her as a limp little creature. I am truly impressed with the quality of the team we now have. She woke up quickly and, I am told, started looking for us right away. And since it is Briar Patch and not some giant, impersonal place--and this is the bosses' kid--she went from one person's arms to mine instead of to a cage. She kissed and kissed both of us and we held her wrapped in a blanket until I took her to work with me in the afternoon.
Poor Lukas was incredibly worried, kept trying to squeeze as close to her as possible, and tried to clean her incision at any moment he could get in close enough. She, in her generous way with her brother, growled at him every time he tried, even when she was too tired to lift her head. Head down, grrrrrrrrrrrrrr, like a little gargle.
When we got home she slept in their bed by the fire with Lukas on guard in their chair next to her. When any of the cats walked near them, he would lunge out, fiercely warning them away. Okay, he's 4 pounds and not a rottweiler, but he can sound very, very fierce. Unless he is frightened by scary stuff. Like Velcro. Or unexpected dry grass under his foot. Or just walking around outside for too long. Sometimes pooping scares him. BUT, when he appoints himself a protector, it brings out all of his best self. When we adopted Tenzing and Eddie, Lukas kept them safe when any of the big cats approached them. He will still stop any of the cats from hissing or fighting. And when Tenzing was sick last summer, Luke slept next to his cage and warned even Zuza away from him.
So, right now both of my canines are curled into little packages next to me on the chair. She has a couple of ugly bruises and a tidy incision, (and me); he has his stuffed fox and a blanket, (and me). And we're all happy.
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| Zuza discovers a Bailey's glass |
So here is my Spring, 2013 entry. It was entitled, "Zuza, Today"
Zuza, brave little soldier that she is, is doing fine. The unknown mass turned out to be an inguinal hernia which was easily repaired by our extremely talented surgeon. Our other two doctors were there for consultation and dental cleaning--no kidding, they stitched her up so fast that they had time to clean her teeth. Carolyn and I left the building while the surgery was happening. On one hand, I do believe that there is some degree of consciousness that remains when they are sedated. On the other hand, as she slipped under sedation and began looking not really very alive...I started to cry and figured if she could tune into me under sedation I better not be looking at her as a limp little creature. I am truly impressed with the quality of the team we now have. She woke up quickly and, I am told, started looking for us right away. And since it is Briar Patch and not some giant, impersonal place--and this is the bosses' kid--she went from one person's arms to mine instead of to a cage. She kissed and kissed both of us and we held her wrapped in a blanket until I took her to work with me in the afternoon.
Poor Lukas was incredibly worried, kept trying to squeeze as close to her as possible, and tried to clean her incision at any moment he could get in close enough. She, in her generous way with her brother, growled at him every time he tried, even when she was too tired to lift her head. Head down, grrrrrrrrrrrrrr, like a little gargle.
When we got home she slept in their bed by the fire with Lukas on guard in their chair next to her. When any of the cats walked near them, he would lunge out, fiercely warning them away. Okay, he's 4 pounds and not a rottweiler, but he can sound very, very fierce. Unless he is frightened by scary stuff. Like Velcro. Or unexpected dry grass under his foot. Or just walking around outside for too long. Sometimes pooping scares him. BUT, when he appoints himself a protector, it brings out all of his best self. When we adopted Tenzing and Eddie, Lukas kept them safe when any of the big cats approached them. He will still stop any of the cats from hissing or fighting. And when Tenzing was sick last summer, Luke slept next to his cage and warned even Zuza away from him.
So, right now both of my canines are curled into little packages next to me on the chair. She has a couple of ugly bruises and a tidy incision, (and me); he has his stuffed fox and a blanket, (and me). And we're all happy.
Wednesday, May 6, 2020
Miracle of Miracles
So, no kidding, I witnessed a miracle this week and I promised God I'd write about it.
I have been a tad fragile in the last couple of weeks. And it means considerable weeping. I am never good at finding things or keeping track of stuff. It's just not my strong suit. And a little deadly disease, disinfecting one's groceries and mail and newspapers, not hugging and not singing with the world's most wonderful choir, well...I'm doing an extra amount of looking for things. It makes me testy.
A few evenings ago, we were just settling down to watch truly mindless TV in the early evening, when we got a call from dear friend Heather. Her very big dog had just bitten her very old, little dog and there was a LOT of blood. And it was the eye that had been bitten and maybe punctured and could Carolyn come over? Well of course. It took us forever to get ourselves all put together to leave the house to go into the big dangerous world. Carolyn packed her doctor bag with whatever she thought she might need, we changed out of the jammie-like clothing we were wearing, located masks and gloves and clothing that could all be washed easily and off we went.
I'm a decent assistant, although not as good as I used to be before my hands went to hell in a hand basket. However, when we got there, Heather was holding the little dog like a baby and not only did the dog not fight Carolyn, Heather didn't so much as make a face when bloody awful things were happening. Since we had left in a hurry, I didn't take my hearing aids out before I put on my mask. Usually I do take them out. They're teeny, tiny computers jockeying for space behind my ears already burdened with glasses, and now unruly hair clipped back away from my face, and adding the little loops from the mask is just trouble. But off I dashed off in the darkness, tucking the dogs into the front seat of the car in case this turned out to be a long night at Cornell.
And when I got home, one of the hearing aids was gone. We searched the car, the foyer, and the path from the house to the car. I called Heather and she went out in the darkness to search for a little brown thing in the dirt by her house. Nothing. Nowhere. The next day we had monsoon rains and high winds all day. I just resigned myself to not hearing for the rest of this year. They cost thousands of dollars that are not covered by insurance and I'm not working for 3 or 4 months. I took the left one out to photograph for Heather and put it in its box. I couldn't even wear it. I only have moderate hearing loss so it wouldn't be so bad, right? (You'll have to ask Carolyn about it because she's the one that is driven absolutely nuts when I can't understand anything she says the first time. Or the 2nd time. Sometimes the 3rd time.)
Yesterday we were gardening. I wasn't feeling well, couldn't take my pain meds because of my gut acting up, and then I fell, tripping over the incredibly stupid rock walls we have around our garden beds. They were built badly by NOT Carolyn who was going to rebuild them this summer after we got back from an epic vacation in June. That was it. I just lost it. NOTE: I didn't fall on Zuza. I wasn't carrying her and didn't drop her. THAT tragedy was averted, which is handy because it's such a bad time to be institutionalized and I would have had to be sedated if that happened again. After we were sure that nothing was broken on me, Carolyn went into the house for something and came back out looking at the palm of her hand. "I found a hearing aid in the driveway," she said. Unfreakingbelievable. In the driveway. Not squished. Well, huh.
I took it from her and put it on. Of course, it was dead. "I'll, uh, go put in a new battery", I said, and left to do that. I was already trying to figure out what to say to the audiologist. "Gee, I don't know, it just stopped working."
So, here comes the God part. It was impossible that she even saw it on the driveway. It was impossible that we hadn't run it over or stepped on it. It was impossible that one of the chickens didn't taste it. It was REALLY impossible that it wasn't swept out to sea...okay, to pond...by the heavy rain. I fetched a new battery. And I prayed very, very earnestly.
I don't really like talking about me and God a lot. I have dealt with so many people who consider themselves serious God people and who are mostly serious judgmental, unkind, unloving people who believe that I am going straight to hell because my life partner is unacceptable in their god's eyes. But Spirituality has always been important to me, a driving force since I was about 5 or 6 years old--no, really, I have witnesses--and it has always felt kind of private. Maybe it was because I was raised Catholic in a small town in the Midwest. We didn't do a lot of shouting out during services, weren't encouraged to read the Bible or have opinions about much of anything. But since I'm like a Shih Tzu with separation anxiety, I liked the idea of never being alone, and a benevolent ally with magical powers seems like a good friend to have. Then came Star Wars. And Yoda. (I love Star Wars, original trilogy, thank you). And I'm watching Yoda explaining the Force to Luke, and I suddenly realize that the true essence of my belief system, of my capital letter "F" Faith is being summed up by a green puppet that sounds a cross between Grover and Cookie Monster. That was humbling.
But I digress.
You guessed it. The hearing aid worked. I understand that it was a tiny miracle in a world that needs much, much bigger ones. But I made a promise that I would sing His (Her, Their) praises and tell everyone. So here I am. May you have ordinary miracles that brighten these bleak days.
And May the Force Be With You. 💚
Friday, May 1, 2020
Lessons from Pets In the Midst of a Pandemic
I saved a frog from certain death today. Our oldest boy cat, Adagio, really has a thing for catching frogs and bringing them into the garage. I heard him singing the song of his people--that, "I am victorious with a mouthful of prey" song for which they are famous--and managed to scoop the poor thing up and return him to our pond.
I am supposed to have been writing wildly for a month now. Isn't that just what I have been whining about for years--time to write? Now, there are other important things to do every day, and they have a lot to do with the other residents of our home--the whole thing, not the just in the house. There are the chickens, of course, all four of them, who must be let out and in, who must be fed and watered, and who try to mob me to shake me down for treats. Bread. Little Debbie Snack Cakes. French fries. One of them--Foghorn--likes greens a lot, so she gets lettuce and spinach and whatever we have that the cats and dogs haven't snatched up, which means that peas, beans and squash never make it out there.
Carolyn feeds the wild birds; sometimes I help with that, but she doesn't really need me there.
Inside, there are five cats, three of whom eat in the garage and two of whom eat everything in the house. And I mean everything. Salads, pasta, cooked vegetables, cookies, and anything that counts as an entree. Dog food--lots of dog food. Twice a day all of the cats get a quarter cup of special dental diet food. They LOVE this stuff which comes in big round crunchies that are designed to scrape the tartar off their teeth as they chew.
The two little dogs are now 14 years old. Lukas is deaf and perhaps a little senile, with terrible arthritis and not a lot of teeth in spite of three dental procedures. He has kidney disease and is medicated so that he will eat and so that his pain is under control. Zuza is blind, which makes her much more crippled inside the house than she has ever been. No more stairs, no happy wandering around the house. There is a pee pad in the kitchen, just a few steps from their favorite bed and a water bowl to which she will go and use very consistently and efficiently. But then she needs help getting back into the bed, under the blankie and curled on to a warm snuggly--and if it is not warm enough, then there is more heartrending whimpering until she hears the microwave ding.
Neither have ever been low maintenance about dinner time. The canned food for Lukas must be cut into teeny, tiny bits and separated from each other. Kibble is fed one at a time, from my fingers to his little mouth and if the piece is unacceptable for some reason, he spits it out. Actually, sometimes the canned food has to be fed to him the same way. Do you know how icky that is? When they were younger we played Meals on Wheels every night where I would toss the kibble--sort of like the way you skip stones--and they would chase it down. Of course, the cats would join in with this particular game. Now the two youngest, Horatio and Calleigh, are right there; Horatio can grab kibble out of the air while Calleigh fields the grounders. Sadako, with her head tilt and dealing with a world that is also tilted, no longer plays outfield, but insists on her own non-moving portion. I do this, flinging pieces over my shoulder, while I am crouched feeding the dogs. I must admit, however, the cats do help stir both dogs into eating. They crowd around, trying to push their big heads into the little bowls of dog food. Zuza always eats better if she has been able to say something nasty to any of the cats.
There is chicken coop cleaning...and litter box cleaning...and required sitting in the living room time, providing laps to little dogs with an occasional cat draped across my throat. There are times that I feel that I have been overtaken by Tribbles.
But...most of the time, they can help keep the anxiety down to an almost manageable level and for that I'm really grateful. The chickens are honestly really funny, and since we are not yet sowing seeds outside, they follow us as we prepare garden beds and do all of the thankless raking and pruning and soil testing around the yard. They will jump into piles of leaves to scatter everything again, annoying, but funny-looking. They will also dig up anything you plant, so we are going to be putting up more fencing as soon as it stops freaking snowing.
We have careful conversations with the cats, especially Horatio, about being gentle and patient and always putting all of their pee into the box. (We were taught to do this by a animal communicator, and I swear to God it really works. Horatio really makes eye contact, appears to listen and occasionally comments. And we haven't had any more litter box aversion problems which nearly forced us to give him up for adoption last Fall. Okay, that's another story.)
About an hour after Luke gets his pills he turns into a much younger version of himself, complete with Nathan Lane-esque shrieking, bouncing up and down, playing with Foxy or any other available squeaky toy and demanding food. Inconvenient, but it helps get me out of my head. And Zuza...is Zuza, still alerting me when my blood sugar gets too low, still letting us know when she isn't warm enough, full enough, held enough and when it's time to go to bed, damn it.
And she is still tucking her head up under my chin, cuddling close and letting me know that some things remain unchanged.
Love is still here. Laughter is still possible.
I am supposed to have been writing wildly for a month now. Isn't that just what I have been whining about for years--time to write? Now, there are other important things to do every day, and they have a lot to do with the other residents of our home--the whole thing, not the just in the house. There are the chickens, of course, all four of them, who must be let out and in, who must be fed and watered, and who try to mob me to shake me down for treats. Bread. Little Debbie Snack Cakes. French fries. One of them--Foghorn--likes greens a lot, so she gets lettuce and spinach and whatever we have that the cats and dogs haven't snatched up, which means that peas, beans and squash never make it out there.
Carolyn feeds the wild birds; sometimes I help with that, but she doesn't really need me there.
Inside, there are five cats, three of whom eat in the garage and two of whom eat everything in the house. And I mean everything. Salads, pasta, cooked vegetables, cookies, and anything that counts as an entree. Dog food--lots of dog food. Twice a day all of the cats get a quarter cup of special dental diet food. They LOVE this stuff which comes in big round crunchies that are designed to scrape the tartar off their teeth as they chew.
The two little dogs are now 14 years old. Lukas is deaf and perhaps a little senile, with terrible arthritis and not a lot of teeth in spite of three dental procedures. He has kidney disease and is medicated so that he will eat and so that his pain is under control. Zuza is blind, which makes her much more crippled inside the house than she has ever been. No more stairs, no happy wandering around the house. There is a pee pad in the kitchen, just a few steps from their favorite bed and a water bowl to which she will go and use very consistently and efficiently. But then she needs help getting back into the bed, under the blankie and curled on to a warm snuggly--and if it is not warm enough, then there is more heartrending whimpering until she hears the microwave ding.
Neither have ever been low maintenance about dinner time. The canned food for Lukas must be cut into teeny, tiny bits and separated from each other. Kibble is fed one at a time, from my fingers to his little mouth and if the piece is unacceptable for some reason, he spits it out. Actually, sometimes the canned food has to be fed to him the same way. Do you know how icky that is? When they were younger we played Meals on Wheels every night where I would toss the kibble--sort of like the way you skip stones--and they would chase it down. Of course, the cats would join in with this particular game. Now the two youngest, Horatio and Calleigh, are right there; Horatio can grab kibble out of the air while Calleigh fields the grounders. Sadako, with her head tilt and dealing with a world that is also tilted, no longer plays outfield, but insists on her own non-moving portion. I do this, flinging pieces over my shoulder, while I am crouched feeding the dogs. I must admit, however, the cats do help stir both dogs into eating. They crowd around, trying to push their big heads into the little bowls of dog food. Zuza always eats better if she has been able to say something nasty to any of the cats.
There is chicken coop cleaning...and litter box cleaning...and required sitting in the living room time, providing laps to little dogs with an occasional cat draped across my throat. There are times that I feel that I have been overtaken by Tribbles.
But...most of the time, they can help keep the anxiety down to an almost manageable level and for that I'm really grateful. The chickens are honestly really funny, and since we are not yet sowing seeds outside, they follow us as we prepare garden beds and do all of the thankless raking and pruning and soil testing around the yard. They will jump into piles of leaves to scatter everything again, annoying, but funny-looking. They will also dig up anything you plant, so we are going to be putting up more fencing as soon as it stops freaking snowing.
We have careful conversations with the cats, especially Horatio, about being gentle and patient and always putting all of their pee into the box. (We were taught to do this by a animal communicator, and I swear to God it really works. Horatio really makes eye contact, appears to listen and occasionally comments. And we haven't had any more litter box aversion problems which nearly forced us to give him up for adoption last Fall. Okay, that's another story.)
About an hour after Luke gets his pills he turns into a much younger version of himself, complete with Nathan Lane-esque shrieking, bouncing up and down, playing with Foxy or any other available squeaky toy and demanding food. Inconvenient, but it helps get me out of my head. And Zuza...is Zuza, still alerting me when my blood sugar gets too low, still letting us know when she isn't warm enough, full enough, held enough and when it's time to go to bed, damn it.
And she is still tucking her head up under my chin, cuddling close and letting me know that some things remain unchanged.
Love is still here. Laughter is still possible.
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